Don’t become a Divorce ‘statistic’ at Christmas

Christmas is a prime time for couples deciding to separate, with 7th January being the busiest day in the calendar of a divorce lawyer.  So, what can you do to ensure you don’t become one of the statistics?

 

 

  1. Make time to talk to each other about what is important.  If there are problems in your marriage work at mending them.  Just ignoring them and hoping they will go away is likely to lead you to that divorce lawyer!  Rediscover what made you fall in love with each other.
  2. Do things you both enjoy over the Christmas holidays.  Maybe go for a long walk (a great excuse to hold hands and have a long talk), go to the cinema, have a dinner or lunch date for two.
  3. If you have family members staying make sure you get some time alone together.  If you have a ‘difficult’ relationship with your family or in-laws try to limit the time you have to spend together and don’t let them upset you.  Remember you can choose how to react to any situation so choose to react with dignity.
  4. Take advantage of relatives to baby-sit if you have young children.  They’ll love it and you’ll get some precious adult time together.
  5. Get some good old-fashioned board games, turn the television off and play.  Favourites include Scattegories, Scrabble, Monopoly, Risk, Trivial Pursuits and Balderdash. 
  6. Eat your meals together over the whole Christmas period and take the opportunity to talk to each other without the interuption of the television.
  7. If you get an evening alone do something romantic.  Have a candlelit bath together, read poetry, massage each other.
  8. Don’t drink too much and risk losing your self-control and your dignity. 

 

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