I wrote this piece for my newsletter and thought it would be good to share it with the readers of my blog. I read about the 3 R’s – Respect for Self, Respect for others and Responsibility for your actions and decided it was worth expanding on them.
Respect for Self
It is so important to respect yourself and to live according to your values. Treat yourself well – spend time on personal development. It doesn’t have to be expensive, there is plenty of information on the web. Most importantly learn to like yourself and be ‘comfortable in your own skin’. What you think of yourself is mirrored back to you. If you project confidence, people will see you as confident. If you look relaxed and attentive, people will see you as interested and friendly. If you show respect to yourself people will mirror that respect back to you.
Respect for others
Treating people with respect makes your world a nicer place to live in and it’s easy – all you have to do is treat people the way you like to have them treat you. Here are a few ideas.
· Listen to others when they speak.
· Value other people’s opinions.
· Be considerate of people’s likes and dislikes.
· Don’t talk about people behind their backs.
· Be sensitive to other people’s feelings.
· Don’t pressure someone to do something he or she doesn’t want to do.
· Show interest and appreciation for other people’s cultures and backgrounds.
· Don’t insult people or make fun of them.
Responsibility for all your actions
Taking responsibility for your actions is a big step. So often we blame other people or circumstances when we don’t get what we want. Blaming makes us feel better but it doesn’t solve our problems. When you start taking responsibility you take back your personal power. When you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got. So, try something different and take responsibility for the results. As you know, one of my favourite authors is Susan Jeffers (see recommended books) and her book ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’ talks about taking personal responsibility.
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