Guest Post – 5 Tips to help you get past your Divorce

A divorce can be one of the most traumatic things one ever has to experience as an adult.  That said, getting over things after the paperwork has been filed is not always an easy endeavor.  What follows is a brief list of tips to help you get past the divorce and move forward in your life. 

Practice the Art of Forgiveness 

Forgiveness isn’t always easy, so start with you.  There is no reason to continue blaming yourself for the things that have happened in your past relationship.  Keep in mind that it takes two and that usually neither party is completely to blame for what happened.  Work on forgiving yourself; you shouldn’t have to keep paying for problems in the past.  Once you can forgive yourself, it becomes easier to forgive others. 

Don’t Wait for Things to Happen 

Life isn’t going to wait for you to get better, so you can’t wait for things to change in your life.  It is time for you to go out and seek opportunities and find what it is that makes you happy.  This is the only way to begin moving forward in your life—you have to just jump in and start swimming in the direction that will get you to where you want to be.  Seize opportunities for learning and growth and never sell yourself short. 

Remember that Happiness is Relative 

Many people are under the mistaken assumption that happiness is about always smiling and laughing, while never feeling sad or down.  On the contrary, happiness is about living a fulfilling life in which you experience the full range of human emotions.  It is okay to feel down, as long as you know how to come back up.  Work with accepting your emotions and see how much better you feel.  Again, there is no reason to beat yourself up because you had a bad day.  Everyone has bad days. 

Limit Communication with your Ex 

This is a very important thing that you can do to begin feeling better faster.  If you have children, this may be slightly more difficult, but it is certainly not impossible.  Communication with your ex should only be for emergencies or planning time with your children.  Besides these two things, limit your communication as much as possible and don’t be tempted to call or text.  Learning to live without your ex in any way will jumpstart the healing process. 

Constantly Improve Yourself 

Never give up on who you are and what your ideal self is comprised of.  Perhaps you let go of some core beliefs or interests as a result of your previous relationship.  Don’t allow yourself to go any further in your life without addressing the things that you wish to improve upon.  It could be as simple as changing your look, or as complex as taking on a new course of study at the university.  Work on improving yourself and you will be grateful that you did down the road. 

This post was contributed by Katie Wilson, who writes about the masters in criminal justice online. She welcomes your feedback at   


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One response to “Guest Post – 5 Tips to help you get past your Divorce

  1. Pingback: 5 Tips to Help You Get Past Your Divorce | Center For Mediated Divorce

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