Guest Post: Stimulating Your Mind, Body, and Spirit with New Experiences After Divorce

Many experts and divorce coaches talk about “starting over” and “rediscovering yourself” after divorce. Starting a new hobby (or several) is a great way to do this because you’ll learn a lot about yourself and be able to meet people with similar interests. It’s important to meet new people and discover new personal attributes when you’re bouncing back from a divorce. It may also be a good idea to work on improving three categories of your life through new experiences: mind, body, and spirit. Finding one or more hobbies that accomplish this goal can get your “new” life off to a great start.


Freelance Writing: Stay sharp by writing. You can do this for profit or just for yourself, and any genre will work (fiction, nonfiction, poetry, or any combination of these). It really depends on how willing you are to function outside of your comfort zone. By writing in two or more genres, you can stay comfortable with nonfiction if that’s more familiar while you explore the new world of fiction. No matter what you choose to write, you’ll be exercising your mind and nurturing your spirit with unique self-expression.  To make this more interactive and meet people with similar interests, try joining a review group like Portal for some feedback and great conversation.

Music: By learning to read and write music or trying out a new instrument, you’ll be waking up your brain cells and getting creative. You can do this online in many cases, or if you’d like to make more of an investment, you can find a teacher and start taking lessons. To get a head start on learning music if you don’t already read it or to review, visit a site like You can take advantage of free lessons, tools, and exercises to help you understand music well enough to start playing any instrument you choose.


Dancing: Take dance lessons to stay in shape, keep your heart healthy, and get rid of daily stress. Dancing is a great way to meet new people, get to know your body better, and exercise. You can try different types of dancing until you find one that appeals to you, then keep taking lessons to get better at it. Learning new steps also keeps your mind working, and you might find that you become more graceful in your everyday movements when muscle memory starts to develop.

Yoga: Get flexible and seriously de-stressed with yoga. Try going to a yoga class three times a week to meet new people, stretch your muscles, and get familiar with common positions. You can also buy a mat and some yoga DVDs, get some friends together, and schedule some yoga time every week at someone’s house.


Meditation: This can be done along with yoga for an experience that’s very healthy for both mind and body, or it can be a separate activity. Books and CDs or audio files are good ways to learn and practice meditation, and they’ll help you to relax and better understand yourself on a daily basis. Taking 20-30 minutes every day for meditation and self-reflection is great for your mental health and will keep you aware of your thoughts and feelings, making you more likely to reconnect with yourself.

Art: Drawing or painting can help you express thoughts and feelings that you may have been subverting. It’s also therapeutic to create something that doesn’t have to be judged objectively. Anyone can create art, so try looking up some local classes or simply pick up some supplies from a hobby store. You can get friends and neighbors to join you once a week for some group “art therapy” if you want to make this an interactive method of self-exploration. You might learn new and exciting things about each other that could solidify friendships and help you bond with the people around you.

Bio: Alexis Bonari is a freelance writer and blog junkie. She is currently a resident blogger at  First in Education performing research surrounding online universities and their various program offerings. In her spare time, she enjoys square-foot gardening, swimming, and avoiding her laptop.



Filed under Divorce, Post Divorce, self-esteem

9 responses to “Guest Post: Stimulating Your Mind, Body, and Spirit with New Experiences After Divorce

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  2. Hello Annie, great advice here for anyone – to prevent divorces as well as to come out the other side. I’m a huge fan of writing and yoga for general well-being. People in the Thames Valley might be interested in the combined yoga and writing sessions I run occasionally called Clear Mind, Clear Body. The next one is 13th Nov and details can be found here.

  3. Superb suggestions, Annie. After the trials and tribulations of divorce, coming out the other side involves reclaiming our purpose, passion and power…and offers a great chance to discover who you really are and want to be.

    Although focused on work, my new book Whack Around The Head, on , is full of information, exercises and stories to help you do just that!

  4. Hi again, keep an open mind and enjoy each day dont dwell on the past or concentrate to much on the future, enjoy today!

  5. This is the kind of thing I try to teach people. Can we count on a sequel?

  6. Thank you for this wonderful blog. Yes, this is good for the persons who undergo divorces. This will help them relax and stay away from stress of their divorce. Even if your breaking part ways with your partner, still your healthy and sexy.

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  8. EXCELLENT suggestions!! It is essential to attend to your mind, body and soul for the recovery of divorce. Divorce is a very difficult experience and it mandates the deepest self-work one can encounter. Do yourself a favor and nourish these very important aspects of YOU!!! Your primary goal is now YOUR healing and this post offers some great suggestions on how to address the pieces of yourself for the greatest potential of healing.

    Every journey begins with a single step…

  9. Jennifer Johansen

    This is wonderful advice! After a divorce or while enduring one, the best therapy is dancing or exercise/yoga. Dancing especially occupies your mind and takes you to another world because you are focused on the steps and the music. It’s a wonderful and healthy escape and will get you into shape at the same time and meet some new friends.

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