Guest Post: How to start Online Dating after a Divorce

After a tough relationship, jumping into the dating game can be a little daunting. The internet is full of opportunities to meet single people, but it can be tough to navigate without some good dating advice. The internet dating world can be strange or unusual at times, but the sheer number of new people you can meet is pretty amazing.  Online dating gives you the option to choose what characteristics you would like in your significant other. You can meet people based on common interests, location, age, income, or any other type of criteria that you specify. Being  matched with a like-minded person helps get the conversation started, but it doesn’t always guarantee a good match. Here are 3 different types of dating sites that people who have gone through a divorce might consider:

Niche Sites

If you have a specific interest or hobby, there most likely has been a site specifically created for people with this interest. These “niche sites” offer the chance to meet other single parents, people interested in fitness, or people who really love a sport like golf. If a potential dater MUST meet specific criteria for you to pursue them, this type of site might be for you. Larger mainstream dating sites give you the opportunity to search by an interest or characteristic, but there won’t be as big of an audience as with these niche sites. Niche sites like these are almost always “pay to join”, so you might not be able to give them a test run before you pay. You also might want to enquire about how many members there are in your local area, BEFORE you pay. Sometimes these sites can get pretty specific, so making sure there are enough people in your local area to actually date is important.

Free Dating Sites

There are an abundance of free sites that let you access all features, but are crammed full of advertising. The benefits of large free sites like ‘Plenty of Fish’ or ‘Mingle2’, is that you can test them out without having to use your credit card. It gives you the opportunity to see if online dating is compatible with YOU. The negative of a site like this is that many of these people are not very serious about finding a perfect match. They may
have signed up out of boredom, because it’s free and they have nothing to lose. You might not get a good response rate as you would with a paid site like ‘eHarmony’. If you are interested in a serious relationship, a paid site will be most likely to match you with a person that is committed to finding a good match.

Paid Membership Sites

High quality membership sites have their advantages because they have certain standards to qualify. Many of them do not accept all applicants and even do background checks. It can be easy to present a false persona on dating sites, so this screening process can allow you to feel secure
that these people are who they say they are. This can be particularly important for safety reasons or if you have kids. Making sure that a match does not have any type of criminal record or sorted past is important before you make a face to face meeting. The main drawback to a paid dating site is the cost. The cost can vary from site to site, but range from $100 to $200 for a 3 month membership.

For people that are trying to get their feet wet after a divorce, a paid site is likely to be the best fit. It might be expensive, but this fee will weed out a lot of the riff-raff. It helps make sure that members are committed to the process of finding a mate. Free sites can attract casual users that won’t take it seriously. If you are looking to meet a quality person, that fits your criteria and is serious about dating, a paid membership is your best bet.

Jeremy Simms maintains the website Chat Rooms Online. The site is community driven and has areas for chat and relationship advice.



Filed under Divorce Support, marrying again, Post Divorce, Relationships

4 responses to “Guest Post: How to start Online Dating after a Divorce

  1. I think it’s good not to make difference on dating after divorce and use same methods as “before divorce if you let such brutal analogy. What I mean is dating should be natural, without those gloomy thoughts chasing many of us after separation. BTW here is a good one on this topic: Good resource overall if you’re in this situation..

  2. Yes, dating sites of full of people who are married and claim they are not. Dating post divorce is stressful enough without new suprises.

  3. I agree, and your advice is great. You should get closer to a large church or hang out with hobby related interests.

  4. Great post. I was checking constantly this blog and I’m impressed! Extremely useful info specifically the last part 🙂 I care for such information much. I was looking for this particular information for a very long time. Thank you and best of luck.

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