Guest Post: 5 Tips about Facebooking after Divorce

It may seem trivial but believe it or not Facebook has a lot of power in your personal life. The rule of the thumb these days, if it’s on Facebook it must be true!  People can misconstrue your posts, pictures and comments. You know by now you want to keep your divorce pain free much as possible. Here are few to keep in mind before jumping online:

Unfriend

Even though you want to take the higher road, it’s best to ‘unfriend’ your former spouse. You may be on amicable terms but allowing he/she to see your personal life isn’t smart and vice versa. Seeing photos of your ex out and about with a new person could hurt you or again vice versa. Once you unfriend avoid blocking them. Blocking on Facebook completely hides your profile. In some cases you may need to do this, but if you can avoid it, don’t do it. Blocking them will only make you seem either uncomfortable or childish in their eyes.

Don’t air your dirty laundry

No matter how much they annoy, frustrate or hurt you, do not mention his or her name or make any references toward them on your page. As soon as you do, it is out there for everyone to see and most likely will be reported right back to your ex, causing unnecessary drama. Most likely everyone knows what happened or at least ‘think’ they know what happened. There are two sides to every story. No need to air your dirty laundry, it’s best to move on and not mention it.

Hold off on making it FBO

Once you start dating and enter a new relationship after your divorce hold off on making it “FBO”, Facebook Official. This means that on your Facebook profile you are linked to your new mates Facebook profile page as well. No matter how the divorce ended it’s best to hold off until you are 100% confident in your new relationship, whether that is 6 months or a year. Many instances, divorcees get into their new relationship and moments later it ends. Be wary of making it FBO, if you break up, everyone knows and people start talking. Take your time.

Picture time

Whether you have one photo of your ex or 42 albums of you and your ex. It’s time to start taking them down. You don’t have to delete them but take them down from Facebook viewers. It is a long process but remember you can use the security settings to hide them from the rest of the pubic and Facebook friends. If children are involved and they are on Facebook, keep in mind it may hurt them to see you take down a photo of them with their parent. Discuss it with them before making a move.

Kids

Whether or not your child is on Facebook, keep in mind that their friends are. Do not do anything that could cause question or concern. Keep your Facebook posts, comments and pictures light and positive. Your children are very sensitive during this time, anything you post can be seen in so many different ways in their eyes. Facebook with care and caution.

 

Author Bio.  Mary Edwards is one of the contributors and editors for best dating sites. She is passionate about thought leadership writing, regularly contributes to various career, social media, public relations, branding, and parenting and online dating community. She can be reached at edwardsmary936 AT gmail.com.

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2 responses to “Guest Post: 5 Tips about Facebooking after Divorce

  1. Marla BK

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  2. So true. It is unreal how Facebook is now a big decision post divorce. So many relations at issue.

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