Going through a divorce is difficult enough, but now living life as a single person after many years of marriage can be both frightening and lonely. It does not matter whether you are the one who initiated the divorce or the one on the receiving end of divorce papers, you will still feel a sense of loss.
Starting over with your newfound freedom can take some time. Adjusting to the single life can be a bit harder than you imagined, especially if most of your friends are married or in a relationship. You may want to seek some form of counselling to release your feelings before venturing back out into the world.
Where to meet someone new after a divorce
When you are ready to get back in the swing of dating, you may be nervous at first. If most of your friends are currently involved with someone, you may want to find a companion of your own. There are many places where singles gather. Here are a few places you may want to consider.
Join a support group – Most of its members are currently going through the same thing you are and many may be looking for someone they can trust and start over with
Singles cruise – There are many cruise ships catered to singles of all ages. Once your grieving period is behind you – or you need something to kick you out of it – this is a great way to meet and talk with people your age.
Night Clubs – If you like to dance, give yourself a night out. Going to a club suitable for your age where many singles go to have fun and enjoy the company of others can be a great source of therapy.
Bingo Hall – While this may not be your first choice, many people go here to meet other people, whether to find a partner or simply a friend. It’s a night out of the house and who knows you may meet someone special.
Weddings – Since you are no longer attached to someone, going to a wedding can bring with it an opportunity to meet someone. Many singles go to weddings out of obligation and look forward to finding someone they can talk to.
Sporting events -These are places where many people gather. The atmosphere of a tailgate is relaxed and fun. It doesn’t hurt that the general intensity over the game will relieve some of the “newly divorced” tension you may feel.
Not Ready for Romance?
Many people decide not to date again after marriage. Instead, they use the opportunity to reinvent themselves. Most times in marriage, over time people tend to give a piece of them up to appease the other. With your newfound singleness, you can do the things that really interest you. This can be all about you now. Clean out those closets and treat yourself to some new clothes. Get your hair done and a pedicure while you are at it. This could be your time to rebuild you. Take up a class and learn something new. It will help to occupy your time while you learn something. Taking some time to work through what has happened will allow you to start over again.
Life after a divorce can take some time to work through the emptiness. Waking up to the sound of silence is something you will need to adjust to. Since old habits are hard to break, try to work on improving and healing yourself before rushing into a new relationship.
If you have found someone new that you are interested in, take it slow. Probably the hardest issue after a divorce is trust. If you are still struggling with the divorce it is best to keep things casual until you have had time to heal. The new person in your life is not the person who left you and deserves honesty and fairness. You can enjoy life with someone new after a divorce so long as you have your heart open.
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